Hey guys, i'm going to push him out of the bed. Got to get this day started. Take it easy and have a good one.
much love,
D

GA
Posted by Danny on 4/24/2002 at 10:13:51
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Didn't think that any of you where from Georgia.
D

UGA
Posted by Danny on 4/24/2002 at 10:07:44
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I'm very excited about speaking at UGA this weekend, not only because I love Athens and haven't been there in a while, but what an honor to be invited to speak at your own school only 2.5 years after you graduated. I'm looking forward to it alot. Will any of you be there?
D

gay clubs
Posted by Danny on 4/22/2002 at 00:07:49
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I repeat:
gay clubs are not fun because...
the music is LAME. They all play the same old, tired, ####ty, cloned house music. It's crap.

about to be straight forward
Posted by Danny on 4/22/2002 at 22:42:42
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Levi,
no offense...don't take this personal. I appreciate the invite, but I've said this before and I'll say it again...Music at most gay clubs is lame as hell (bad diva-house) and secondly, Go-Go boys are not sexy. I don't care to see some dude waving his bannana in my face while i'm tring to chill. Just because it's sexy when women dance on a stage half-dressed does not mean that men can get away with it. Basically, I'm NOT into the scene.
Just had to say that.
D

Mr Robert
Posted by Danny on 4/21/2002 at 22:12:57
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just wanted to throw a quick answer to your question. Basically, yes...i think it's very possible for you to have a crush or feel love for a girl, even if you feel the same for guys. I very much believe in the possibilities of bisexuality. I just think most people are too close-minded to the idea, both straight and gays. The McKinsey scale most definitely exist and people fall along that scale at different points. People want so badly to package people up in little, neat lables (gay or straight) but the truth is that some people lay in the hazy middle. It just boggles some peoples little minds that everything isn't black and white. Now let's get some things straight:
1) most so called bisexuals aren't really, but rather are in a self-acceptance phase of transition from "straight" to accepting being gay.
2) though I feel I fall somewhere towards the middle-same-sex end, I do not claim to be and am not bisexual.
3) People forget that being "in love" is not one straightforward protocall. It's different for everyone and is always a complex set of feelings ranging from emotionality to mental stimulation to phsicality. People tend to feel they're in love even when they may only be feeling one aspect of that spectrum. True love is when there's an attraction across the board.
The most common fatal mistake is "being in love" based on physical attraction.

Hope this sheds some light.
D

Good Night guys
Posted by Danny on 4/19/2002 at 22:58:56
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Just wanted to say good night to all but before I hit the sack I just wanted to say to Mike that there's no need to appologize.

Secondly, to John who's being thrust into the position of role model. I felt the same way as you for a long time. My biggest problem was that I felt this disconnection from the gay world and much of it felt foreign to me. Well, that's still the case for the most part, but what's changed is my realization that there is a huge need for positive gay role models. There's such a void out there and people are dying for someone to look towards. Basically, by being you, you're alredy doing what it takes to be a role model. You're a positive example for others to look up to. So, I don't see what else it is that you should feel pushed to do. You do what you feel comfortable with.
much love,
D

lesson here
Posted by Danny on 4/18/2002 at 14:41:34
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So Mike and for others as well whose feelings I've hurt in the past...i'm a very straight-forward person and I don't mean to hurt feelings. I'm just not into bleeding hearts. We've all been through tough times and somehow we pull ourselves together. I appreciate all of you who share your stories here, since it often helps others. But in the end, you really don't need me to validate your feelings.
I hope you don't take what I've said the wrong way Mike and understand where I'm coming from.
Have a good one folks.
D

More on Pride
Posted by Danny on 4/18/2002 at 14:32:15
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...Though I do have an open mind on the subject and have agreed to take part in the Boston event. Hopefully it will be alot of positive fun and will change my perception on the subject.
D

Mike
Posted by Danny on 4/18/2002 at 14:29:34
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This shouldn't hurt your feelings at all. I'm not sure what it is that you expect out of me. I'm no therapist and it seems that maybe that's what you need to help you through this.
D


My negative feelings towards Pride events is that they're just a lame excuse to party and act obnoxious in public. I see no pride to it...when I see pride events on TV, I feel more shame than anything if you want to know the truth.
Danny

Mike
Posted by Danny on 4/18/2002 at 14:24:42
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That shouldn't hurt your feelings...
The point i'm getting across to you is that there are certain subjects that I know no more about than the next guy so I can't understand why you would single me out w/ this subject when there are so many around you that could help you with your feelings. Of course I naturally agree with you, but it's very unnecessary to take it past that point. Don't take it personal big guy.
Danny

afternoon all
Posted by Danny on 4/18/2002 at 14:18:41
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Hey guys...just popping in.
Yes, i'll be In Boston for the Youth Pride event in mid-May. Other gay cast members from RW will be there as well. Should be fun and will be my first Pride Event though it Better not live up to my negative ideas of what a Pride event usually is. Those who attend had better not wear tank-tops and capri pants. I was in the Gap yesterday and noticed that they have a huge stock of those hideous things. That means I'll see even more of that crap on the steets this year. Tank-tops go UNDER your clothing guys.

And Mike, as you have well noticed by now, I don't respond to your post. Basically I feel that logic answers your question and I find unnecessary for me to respond as well as a bit strange that you keep posting that. No offense of course.
Have a good one guys.
much love,
Danny

 

uhmm...
Posted by Danny on 4/18/2002 at 23:39:10
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that would be except and aiRport.
man it's late.
D

 

Chi-Town
Posted by Danny on 4/18/2002 at 23:37:54
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wont be there anytime soon (excpet for a layover at the aiport this weekend).
D

 

Wesleyan
Posted by Danny on 4/18/2002 at 23:31:19
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Since it's not posted on the tour page, I just wanted to let any of you know who would like to come know that I'll be speaking w/ Melissa from RW9 on Sat at 2pm at Wesleyan(sp) college in CT. Maybe i'll see some of you there.
take care.
Danny

just dropping by...
Posted by Danny on 4/15/2002 at 14:57:21
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Hey guys...just wanted to say a few things before I forget. First off, Jim, thanks for the letter and all gifts. Especially thanks goes to Pauly for the TIGI. also, as a favor I wanted to answer your questions from your man. Here goes...
As far as parents go and being honest with them...there's never a guarantee that they'll always be there. No one ever knows. I was terrorfied that my parents would jet as soon as I told them. What I can say to encourage you though is that I hear far more positive stories with good outcomes than I do the other. My parents have taken it rather well and what I think most parents eventually come to is that blood is thick and nothing should get in the way. Your parents most likely will love you no matter what. However, I think it's also wise to always be prepared for the worst-case scenario. It can never hurt to be prepared. (scouts honor)
secondly, you can't force your parents or anyone else for that matter to accept you as you are. People will only do that when they're ready. The best way to encourage them in that direction is to act with a positive attitude and set a positive example. How can they deny that? A militant push for acceptance and "acting out" will never get acceptance.
third, in the end, being honest with the people you love is the best way to be close to them and vice-versa.
fourth, why would you move to a big city if you're not ready to accept the change? Going will seem natural when you're really ready, as with any major change in life.
fifth, moving through life with uncertanties is normal...for everyone. If you think there's a way to get through life without uncertainty, you're crazy. You can't fear these things; you have to relax and let them excite you. How boring would life be without a little risk? live for the day and let tomorrow happen naturally.
sixth,
Feeling comfortable with oneself is a process that everyone goes through and some take longers than others. Much longer. It's a personal process and happens in different ways for everyone. What did it for me was just the realization that no one's perfect and that it's ok to have faults. The truth is that those who
mock/hate/attack others are only weak, fearful people themselves. Good people who are secure within themselves are above that.

Hope some of these points help you and I hope it all makes since. I wrote that really quickly.

Billy, I don't really go to gay bars (can't stand the cloned music) but I can recommend "Baltic Room" if you're into drum-n-base.

and one last thing...for God'd sake guys, please stop the madness with way-too-small-tank tops and those #### Capri Pants. It's really painful to see those things. As a matter of a fact, unless you're white trash or live in the South or both, stop the tank tops period.
I'd be so happy to see that happen. ;)
much love,
Danny

just dropping by...
Posted by Danny on 4/15/2002 at 14:33:32
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back home and recuperating
Posted by Danny on 4/14/2002 at 15:09:13
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Hey guys...just arrived back in Seattle (to ####e weather of course) from CT and am glad to be home. Had a good trip and enjoyed my time. I was reminded by several people that this site has helped them alot with their daily struggles, which has renewed my drive to stop in from time to time. I've been really bad about that lately, but my schedule has been out of control. So, I promise to be better about checking in. I'm going to get some rest and will talk to you all later.
good evening.
D

update...finally
Posted by Danny on 4/1/2002 at 22:23:13
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evening guys...just wanted to let you know that Jenn has posted some of my Kauai pictures on the photo page finally. There are more to come...eventually. Also, sorry, but for the moment the video clips aren't working. Be patient and I'll have Jenn fix it. Have a good one.
Danny